Matrescence
Discover the transformative journey of matrescence, the emotional, physical, and mental transition into parenthood. Learn how this often-overlooked process shapes identity, relationships, and well-being. Our blog delves into the stages of matrescence, offering insights and support for those navigating the profound changes that come with becoming a parent.
What is Matrescence?
Matrescence is the powerful, complex, and deeply personal transformation of becoming a parent. Much like adolescence marks the transition from childhood to adulthood, matrescence is the shift from individual identity to the expanded role of a parent. It’s a physical, emotional, psychological, and social process that begins the moment we anticipate a new life and continues well beyond birth.
While the word may be unfamiliar to some, its effects are felt by every parent—whether it’s the subtle changes in our bodies, the emotional upheaval, or the way our relationships shift. It’s about navigating the new terrain of balancing a pre-existing identity with the emerging identity of being responsible for another life.
The Phases of Matrescence
Just as adolescence has its ebbs and flows, matrescence is not a single event but an ongoing journey. Some parents experience a more immediate transformation, while for others, the shifts come gradually. Here are a few phases that many experience:
Pre-Birth Identity Shifts: During pregnancy or even while preparing to conceive, you may notice the first inklings of change. Your body is shifting, your thoughts about the future are evolving, and there is a re-evaluation of priorities and relationships.
The Fourth Trimester: The first few months postpartum are often the most intense, as you learn to adjust to your new reality. There’s a hormonal cascade, healing from birth, and an overwhelming sense of responsibility. Many describe this time as both beautiful and disorienting.
Ongoing Evolution: Just like adolescence takes years, matrescence doesn’t stop after the baby phase. It continues as your child grows, as you navigate work, relationships, and the constant adjustments to what it means to be a parent.
Why Is Understanding Matrescence Important?
Recognizing matrescence helps normalize the challenges many experience. It's common for parents to feel torn between their old selves and their new responsibilities. Guilt, anxiety, and even grief can accompany the joy and love that come with parenthood.
Too often, society expects parents to snap back, to balance it all effortlessly. But matrescence reminds us that it's okay to feel in-between, to grow slowly into the new roles and responsibilities that come with parenthood.
How Valley Doulas Can Support You During Matrescence
At Valley Doulas, we recognize that matrescence isn't a one-size-fits-all experience. Some families need emotional support, others need help adjusting to the physical demands of parenthood, and some need a gentle reminder that it’s okay to ask for help.
Our team of birth and postpartum doulas are here to provide tailored care that fits where you are in your matrescence journey. We offer:
Non-judgmental, evidence-based support to help you navigate the big emotions and changes.
Practical postpartum care, including meal prep and infant care, so you can focus on yourself during this expansion.
Emotional guidance, helping you adjust to your new identity and understand that the messiness of parenthood is perfectly normal.